Post by OPERAGHOST on Apr 2, 2015 18:05:23 GMT
Im not sure if this is the right place to post this, so apologies in advance, and admin, please feel free to move it to a more relevant board if you need/want to.
We are taught that we are a whole person even if we are single, and that by getting into a relationship, we are simply added to. If and when we are single again, we are not then less of a person.I think the best picture that describes this is:
If we are in a healthy happy relationship, we are a set of overlapping circles, but if/when we end up single again, we are not left as an incomplete circle. Does that make sense? Im really not articulating it effectively.
ANYWAY.....Get to the Point O.G.!
I have been single for about 10 years. partly through choice and partly not. "Married to the job" became the stock phrase, and the more I used it, the more I believed it.
Anyway, I have found myself in a relationship, finally, and we have been together for 3 months. However, and herein lies the problem, Im so damn insecure and needy that I want us to spend every waking minute together. We have jokingly talked about marriage (what kind of wedding we want, what we'll wear etc) and also about the amazing journeys we are going to go on.
I am the first to admit, it is all moving a little bit fast, but I quite like that!! After so long without a relationship, I am very much loving being in one, BUT I am about to lose it as last nights text spoke of it "moving too fast...needing time/space...taking it slower" and now Im frisking out!!!
I almost feel like the part-circle from the example above, in that I need another person to make me complete. Bizarre!! And no amount of logical talking to myself is helping! My insecurities flare up and Im a gibbering wreck all over again!!
So, posting on here to see if you have experienced or gone through this, asking what helped (if anything) and I guess for a little bit of love and a prayer or two that 1. I sort my own head/heart out and 2. that things work out!!
O.G.
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We are taught that we are a whole person even if we are single, and that by getting into a relationship, we are simply added to. If and when we are single again, we are not then less of a person.I think the best picture that describes this is:
If we are in a healthy happy relationship, we are a set of overlapping circles, but if/when we end up single again, we are not left as an incomplete circle. Does that make sense? Im really not articulating it effectively.
ANYWAY.....Get to the Point O.G.!
I have been single for about 10 years. partly through choice and partly not. "Married to the job" became the stock phrase, and the more I used it, the more I believed it.
Anyway, I have found myself in a relationship, finally, and we have been together for 3 months. However, and herein lies the problem, Im so damn insecure and needy that I want us to spend every waking minute together. We have jokingly talked about marriage (what kind of wedding we want, what we'll wear etc) and also about the amazing journeys we are going to go on.
I am the first to admit, it is all moving a little bit fast, but I quite like that!! After so long without a relationship, I am very much loving being in one, BUT I am about to lose it as last nights text spoke of it "moving too fast...needing time/space...taking it slower" and now Im frisking out!!!
I almost feel like the part-circle from the example above, in that I need another person to make me complete. Bizarre!! And no amount of logical talking to myself is helping! My insecurities flare up and Im a gibbering wreck all over again!!
So, posting on here to see if you have experienced or gone through this, asking what helped (if anything) and I guess for a little bit of love and a prayer or two that 1. I sort my own head/heart out and 2. that things work out!!
O.G.
x