13 Years I Waited!

[Littlerachel]

I always thought that through not having a relationship for 13 years, that by the time I did, all imprints from previous relationships would have gone. I was focussed solely on raising my boy and nothing else.
How utterly devastated I was to have found love which seemed totally reciprocal and then for him to basically wipe the floor with me emotionally to the extent that I considered taking my own life last Tuesday.
My family are in pieces and I am a wreck. I have nothing to occupy my days and I am still suffering the side effects of early miscarriage. He says my "mood swings" and being "mad" and the fact that he has "migrated elsewhere" are the reasons for all of this not to mention his near bankruptcy...

[STORMDANCER]

Many suicide attempts happened within five days of a breakup especially if it was with the person you "trusted completely". My best advice is just hang in there. It does get better with time. It's the reason I'm alive today. It seems that you went through a time with a lot of emotional distrust as you say 13 yrs and to find someone again you really want to be with hurts when things fall apart. It could be that you had such emotional barriers before meeting him that his actions only reinforced the behavior not allowing you to fully open up and trust him.

I am so sorry to hear about your miscarriage and you may well be suffering from depression which would be understandable. You know men can be affected just as much as we can after such a sad loss. Maybe you both need to have some help to get over this, maybe ask your doctor about counseling or maybe a group of people who have been through the same thing so you can have a support network.

I am glad you didn’t go through with taking your own life and remember we have many many people here who will take time to talk to you and help you through this difficult time. Maybe spend some time in chat we are all good listeners.

Please, if you are not already seeing your doctor about how you feel, talk with someone. If you ever feel that down again that you feel suicidal thoughts entering your head Call the Samaritans call 08457 90 90 90.

Just take care of yourself.

Peace and Love

Stormdancer

[THE GREAT OZ]

I am sending you healing and strength my friend. Sometimes when we seek relationships, even if considerable time has passed, what we unconsciously do is send out the wrong message or vibrations. Even though 13 years has passed perhaps you need to program and make affirmations of what you need in a companion and not what you want so to speak. No relationship is ever worth ending a valuable life, as you are too precious to lose.

Do not blame yourself for this persons bad habits or way of thinking. Two quotes that may help you get back on the right track is before you can be happy with someone else, you must first learn to be happy with yourself and you can't make the same mistake twice. The second time you make it, it's no longer a mistake, it's a choice. I am not trying to be rude, but think about what you may have projected and change your outlook and do affirmations and program for someone to come into your life that will help and be one with what you are looking for.

It is not easy finding just the right person, and I feel you have so much to offer. Please try and get back on your feet, brush yourself off and keep your head high. Nothing or anyone is worth ending a precious life. It does get the darkest before dawn, but now it is time to pull back the curtains and let sunshine and good will back in your life.

You have just learned a valuable life lesson and this serves you well for the future, so don't be hard on yourself I ask. I know you are stronger than you think and we here at the forum are your personal cheering squad so please always keep this in mind. You are special and deserve to be treated as such.

I believe in you! And goodness and the right person will come into your life when you least expect it.

Bless...OZ

[paulmurdoch1975]

sending posative healing thoughts your way .

im glad you decided to join my freind.
you must try to stay posative you have your child to think of who needs you and would miss his mum and not just that but for arguments sake if you would have gone through with it you would have regreted it because your life is worth more than to end it over him .

this man is an energy vampire who draind you of all your posative energy and then done a runner to a new victim .
you must be strong now and cut off any contact with him and not leave your doorway open for him to come back when your better to drain you again be strong ok .
the road to recovery is to find yourself again you are wanted you are a good person and you are a lot better off on your own .

my heart goes out to you with the loss of your child i know its not easy that on its own is a lot to deal with counciling will help you but if all fails or you just dont want to go there we are here we can talk you through and help you rebuild yourself again with a new you .

i realy feel that this was meant to happen as bad as things are it was to make you stronger and you will be the strongest youve ever been when you start to get yourself back together again .

Please let us know how you are getting on and if you need a chat we are here for you if you need us .


Hugs & Blessings .


AngelGabriel

[marianne 50]

your story upsets me , what a situation you are in ! therefore i will pray to my angels for you to help you to overcome this. in my opinion it is important you talk about it to people you trust. love and light from me and of course a big hug my friend !